Sunday, October 24, 2010

It Doesn't Interest Me...

It doesn't interest me what you do for a living. 
I want to know what you ache  for, 
and if you dare to dream of meeting 
your heart's longing.   

It doesn't interest me how old you are. 
I want to know if you will risk looking 
like a fool for love, 
for your dream, 
for the adventure of being alive.   

It doesn't interest me what planets are squaring your moon. 
I want to know if  you have touched the center of your 
own sorrow, 
if you have been opened by  life's betrayals 
or have become 
shriveled and closed from fear of further 
I want to know if you can sit with pain, mine or 
your own, 
without moving to  hide it or fade it, or fix it.   
I want to know if you can be with joy, mine or your own, 
if you can dance with  wildness and let the ecstasy fill you 
to the tips of your fingers and toes  without cautioning us to be careful, 
to be realistic, to remember the  limitations of being human.  

It doesn't interest me if the story you are telling me is true. 
I want to know  if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself; 
if you can bear the  accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul; 
if you can be faithless and therefore trustworthy.   
I want to know if you can see beauty even when it's not pretty, 
every day, and  if you can source your own life from its presence.    
I want to know if you can live with failure, yours and mine, and still stand on  
the edge of the lake and shout to the silver of the full moon, “Yes!”  

It doesn't interest me to know where you live or how much money you have. 
I want  to know if you can get up, after the night of grief and despair, 
weary and  bruised to the bone, and do what needs to be done to feed the children.   

It doesn't interest me who you know or how you came to be here. 
I want to know if you will stand in the center of the fire with me and not shrink back.   

It doesn't interest me where or what or with whom you have studied. 
I want to know what sustains you, from the inside, when all else falls away.   
I want to know if you can be alone with yourself and if you truly like the 
company you keep in the empty moments.   

By, Oriah Mountain Dreamer 
copyright © 1999 by Oriah Mountain Dreamer. 

A little morning sweet for thought...

"You can't have a narrow mind when you have a thick passport"

Sunday, August 15, 2010

Have You Listened Today?

Tried to give you a warning but everyone ignores me
Told you everything loud and clear, but nobody's listening
Called to you so clearly but you don't want to hear me
Told you everything loud and clear, but nobody's listening.
~ Linkin Park "Nobody's Listening

Sitting at my kitchen table, gazing out picture window this Sunday morning, I am realizing that I need to improve on a skill. The skill of being an active listener. Many miscommunication have happened this weekend between me and my beloved that all started from ME not being an active listener.

ac·tive   [ak-tiv]
1. engaged in action; characterized by energetic work, participation, etc.; busy: an active life.

lis·ten   [lis-uhn]
–verb (used without object) give attention with the ear; attend closely for the purpose of hearing; give ear.

I can remember many years ago when I was much younger and living my Life at 100 mph. The hustle and bustle of making it in the Music Biz made me a terrible listener, drowning out any "noise" that did not pertain to the immediate job at hand. I was a terrible friend and a horrible confidant for I was barely "present" at the brunch we had yesterday, or the dinner we shared last week or the late night phone call we shared as you lamented about a problem with a boyfriend or the issue you were having with your girlfriend. If I had to take a test after each encounter, I would fail miserably.

When I decided to change my Life, I dialed back in and became what I call an "active listener". I missed out on some much and didn't want to miss out on another minute! I became a member of the PRESENT and it felt really good.

But there are those moments in Life when we slip back into old habits...

We are so busy trying to say only what we want to hear, listen only to the words that we want to hear. By doing this, no only are we creating havoc and confusion in our lives but we are paying little respect to those around us, mainly those that mean the most to us. Communication is an essential element in the game of Life, yet we as human beings have the hardest time doing this very thing. Is successful communication an art? I would say it truly is.

Think about all the arguments, mistakes and hurt feelings ensued from poor communication? Or from poor "listening" because successful communications is a 2-way street. The blame does not fall on one person's shoulders, no matter how much we try to argue that it does. And when the domino-effect take places, poor communication can effect the masses. And don;t even get e started on email communication - that is an entire separate blog indeed for 99% of the time I wish people would just PICK UP THE PHONE instead of sending that email that started a whirlwind of confusion/frustration/anger/etc/etc/etc/etc.

So today is a new day for me. Another chance to resolve the sins of yesterday and do better and be better.

Try being an "active listener" today and let me know how it works out for you.

~ From Intern to CMO

Thursday, July 29, 2010


I will persist until I succeed.

I was not delivered into this world in defeat, nor does failure course in my veins.
I am not a sheep waiting to be prodded by my shepherd.
I am a lion and I refuse to talk, to walk, to sleep with the sheep.

The slaughterhouse of failure is not my destiny.

I will persist until I succeed.

~ From the ancient scroll marked III in THE GREATEST SALESMAN IN THE WORLD

I am currently reading this book and its one that I highly recommend. I was given this book by my dad who always knows what I need, when I most need it. On my 30th birthday, he gave me THE PROPHET by Khalil Gibran, another life changing book (more on that later).

Its all of 110 pages and you probably can finish it in an hour but I don't recommend you speed read through this one for as you may remember, your Life lesson may be drowned out by the "noise" if you don't pay close attention.

Go out today and get this little book of inspiration and apply it today to your life. You too can be THE GREATEST...!

~ From Intern to CMO

Tuesday, July 27, 2010

Lovely Thoughts...

Takes me away

To where I've always heard it could be

Just a dream and the wind to carry me
And soon I will be free

It gets the best of me
When I'm sailing

All caught up in the reverie

Every word is a symphony
Won't you believe me

~ Christopher Cross

My time spent in the Carribean still tugs at my heart and fills my days with wanderlust..

Tuesday, July 20, 2010

Don't Stop Believing

Just a small town girl, livin' in a lonely world
She took the midnight train goin' anywhere
Just a city boy, born and raised in South Detroit
He took the midnight train goin' anywhere...

Don't stop believin'
Hold on to the feelin'
Streetlight people

Don't stop believin'
Hold On
Street lights people

~ Journey

Funny how when you truly let go and allow yourself to BELIEVE, wonderful things begins to manifest in your Life!

This was reaffirmed to me recently from watching a young gentleman finally get the opportunity he has been BELIEVING would happen.

Day after day, he would come to the office and work hard for FREE. We would talk often about his journey and goals, sometimes candidly expressing his fears and concerns to me. After many (and I mean MANY) months with no opportunity breaks on the horizon, I must admit, I told him he may have to make a bold move and "move on". But he didn't take my advise and stayed put because he truly BELIEVED this break would manifest.

And as sure as the sun rises each day, he got his chance to SHINE! Finally!

I am experiencing a revelation through the actions of this young determined man. Like so many others, I too have been believing in a goal. But certain trials have dampened my spirit and made me doubt. But once I reaffirmed myself and released the negativity that likes to keep one rooted in a bad situation, I have happily noticed how things are shifting...quickly! I feel even closer to achieving my desired result and most importantly, I am filled with a sense of peace and calm.

I give thanks to my young colleague for helping me get back on track, turning a deaf ear to Life's "noise" that had been filling them for months. His actions resonated louder to me than any words could.

Life's lessons, big or small, sometimes come from unusual sources. Be attentive at all times and listen closely to the unspoken moments to prevent your lesson from becoming drowned out by all the "noise".

~ From Intern to CMO

Wednesday, July 14, 2010

Standing At The Apex

How long has it been, dear friend?

What happened?, you may be wondering.

I humble myself and admit that Life challenges completely consumed me and I lost my footing. As much as I love being WONDER WOMAN, I do realize that from time to time, I AM human and fragile and a slight pressing of one's foot on the brake pedal is warrented and flat-out necessary.

I believe almost all problems pale in comparison to the solutions and what is truly important is not the trails that we experience but how we emerge from them.

I can say I have emerged renewed, centered and prepared to claim my reward! The trials have made me stronger (funny how that usually is the case), demonstrating to me the strength that lies quietly within gaining power and victory over the emotionally exhaustive moments in Life (woo-sah!!!!!!!!!!!).

I just celebrated a birthday, my 40th! And for the record that was not the reason for my silence or influx of Life challenges. For those of you who know me well, know that I love birthdays as much as I love the dawn of a new day for each present infinite possibilities of the possible, no matter how big or small they may be.

As sure as a caterpillar emerges from her cocoon, shiny and new, I also have emerged!


~ From Intern to CMO

Sunday, May 9, 2010

The Art of Reinvention

Stop haunting me now
Can't shake you nohow
Just leave me alone
I've got those Monday blues
Straight through Sunday blues
Goodmorning heartache
Here we go again
Goodmorning heartache
You're the one who knew me when
Might as well get used to you hanging around
Goodmorning heartache
Sit down
~ Billie Holiday "Good Morning Heartache"

Athletes practice their game all the time. Every single day, trying to perfect that jump shot, dunk, ace, or touch down.

Musicians practice their instruments every single day. Going through hours of exercises, learning a new song or difficult transition.

In the business world, sometimes we get caught up in the day to day act of just doing, executing or simply trying to get the job done that the practice can get lost in the mire of "just trying to get the job done". The practice that us business men and women must do is reinvention.

My dad was the King of Reinvention. He started his career as a draftsman. Through the years he had to reinvent himself many times in order to stay urgent and competitive in an industry that was rapidly changing before his eyes. I witnessed this constant reinvention in awe and silent respect for Change is constant but not always a welcome visitor.

Great men and women in business today know very well the Art of Reinvention. You can not stay stagnant in any area of business or you will be knocked off your pedestal by the new kid on the block.

When I was working in Video Promotions, I started to see subtle changes in my industry. MTV started replacing video hours with long-form programming. The days of watching videos for hours on end were dwindling to a few scattered hours here and there. Shows were reigning supreme on these channels and my job was holding less importance. MTV was leading the way for this change in how their channel was being programmed but the others followed shortly after. Now as most change happens, it was slow yet steady. If you weren't paying close attention, you may have missed the obvious signs. But I saw them, and knew I needed to reinvent myself. And I made a early decision to move from one area (Video Promotions) to another (Marketing). This would not be the last time I reinvented myself nor will it be my last.

Hello Change, come inside for a cup of joe and a chat.

~ From Intern to CMO

Monday, April 26, 2010

Anything is possible..if you BELIEVE

"Wow! You were unbelievable. Thank you so much for speaking at Washington Irving High School. You truly had a positive impact on the group. They were definitely inspired and appeared to be very comfortable being themselves and talking with you.

As you know, these young women live in transitional housing or homeless shelters and face many challenges on a daily basis.

The power of
your session was evident when one young woman told me
that she was going to rethink her future based on your talk. "

I recently had the honor of speaking to a group of young and spirited high school female students from Washington Irving High School in Manhattan, NY. After breaking through the temporary walls they put up around themselves, we laughed and exchanged stories as if we were old friends. This is what I love do. This is why my blog was birthed. To me, paying it forward is so important, maybe even more important for our generation than those before us.

When I was a college student, I enrolled in a Sociology course that focused on the art or gift of "giving back". I would go once a week to Jordan Downs, a project development in a part of Los Angeles called Watts. I would mentor young pregnant teenagers that were attempting to complete their studies and receive a GED, despite their current condition.

I'll never forget that first meeting, standing in front of about 10 girls who looked just like me but our worlds could not be more different. They could not wrap their minds around the person that I was. A young African American girl in college, who spoke different, acted different but was really not all THAT different. At first, they wanted
nothing to do with me. Funny how someone's difference can initially be so frightening. But I was persistent and didn't cringe or retreat after receiving the barrage of harsh words spewed my way. I broke down the walls, one by one, and I would like to think, I started to make a difference.

That was the beginning. And I've been giving back or paying it forward ever since. I have learned throughout the years that you won't be able to save or reach everyone. But it never fails that out of the crowd, a brilliant light will force its way through the darkness. During my meeting at Washington Irving High School, one brilliant light made it way too view. She was lovely, smart and determined. I saw her. I see you ladybug.

As she made it a point to walk with me to the front door of the school, she promised me that she will stay in touch. I have no doubt that she will.

Make it a point today to pay it forward in any way you can. The reward is indescribable, the feeling is intoxicating. You will find that your kind deed or favorable word will change you more than you realize.

~ From Intern to CMO

Friday, April 16, 2010

Its All A Blur

"Deja Vu tell me what am I gonna do
When I reminisce over you, my God"
~ Pete Rock and CL Smooth "The Reminisce Over You"

With Coachella happening this weekend in Indio, CA, I'm reminded of my first Coachella experience.

For those of you who are not familiar with Coachella, it is a 3-day music festival held in the desert of Indio, CA (near Palm Springs). There are three main stages and lots of tents on the grounds. Its a music-lovers dream as the line up is diverse and you are destined to find your new favorite band while rocking out to your favorite band of all time!

I love Palm Springs. I would take many "road trips" during my high school days with friends to this desert oasis. My mom had a condo in Palm Springs so all we needed was money for gas and food and we were OFF! Endless days and nights filled with swimming, playing tennis, bbq, and all the other debauchery that goes along with being 16 & 17 years old!

So when I had the opportunity to check out this magical festival located in my favorite desert oasis, I was more than down! What made the trip even more spectacular was I was heading down with my favorite band - BLUR! They were playing Coachella in support of their much-loved release THINK TANK.

The trip started with us at David Letterman show. The band was performing on the show then driving down to Palm Springs. I love a road trip. Hours of comedy, loud laughing, the telling of stories and just hanging out with good friends.

Now Coachella is a BIG THING and a bit overcrowded and filled with too many "people who think they are too cool for school", but the year I went it was still a bit "indie" and undiscovered. The sun was high in the sky and music was loud and good. You bumped into friends and co-workers here and there, but everyone was exceptionally chill, no posturing at all.

When Blur took the stage, I positioned myself on the side of the massive stage and watched in awe. Damon Albarn, with his aching beautiful voice mesmerized the crowd. And when the ever-classic SONG 2 was performed, it was so intense to watch thousands of kids jumping simultaneously in the air along with Damon.

But the moment in time that will forever stay with me is when the song "Battery In Your Leg" was performed. It was something out of a story book:

the sun was setting in front of us.
Damon was singing the words ever song melodically...

I got nothing to rely on
I've broken every bone
Everybody's stop believing
But you know you're not alone
You can be with me
the crowd was stick-still.
you couldn't hear a murmur from crowd of thousands.
time stood still...
and so did I.

Moment like these are far and few for I have witnessed and been apart of many live shows. I will always be a music lover. God bless those that still are.

~From Intern to CMO